Are You Frustrated with Your Child’s Behaviors?


  • Does your child seem out of control?
  • Do you feel like you have tried everything and nothing has helped?
  • Are you worried that this behavior is more than just a phase?

It can be frustrating and worrisome when you are parenting a child with difficult behaviors.  This can lead to conflict within your relationship and family.  Constant arguments as you try and enforce consequences and rules can leave both you and your child feeling exhausted and defeated.  These arguments may carry over to your marital relationship, leaving you and your partner struggling to figure out what you can do to get your child to listen.

Are you receiving regular calls home from your son or daughter’s school reporting unacceptable child behavior problems?  You may have started to notice that he or she is struggling to make and keep friends.  As a parent you are worried about what is happening with your child that could have led to these behaviors. You may be frightened of the unknown causes behind your child’s distress, unsure what options you have to better understand and help your child.

Every Child Faces Emotional Struggles from Time to Time

Every person goes through a time when they struggle with emotional issues. Children do not have the verbal language skills that adults have, so when emotional difficulties occur at an early age, children often communicate through behavior. While these child behavior problems may be frustrating and exhausting, the key is to understand what it is your child is trying to say.

Understanding the message your child is sending is a way to help eliminate the difficult behaviors. While our first instinct is to apply consequences for the unwanted behaviors, this may only serve to make the child behavior problems more frequent or intense. You may be exhausted and feel like you have tried everything you can to eliminate the challenging behaviors, but your patience continues to be tested. You are not alone as many parents struggle with children who display difficult behaviors.

The good news is that with a compassionate, patient and experienced therapist your child can heal and grow.

Therapy Can Help Your Child and Family Reconnect

The Marriage and Family Therapists at Alkira are skilled in working with youth who are struggling emotionally and displaying child behavior problems.  We have extensive experience working with children and families using optimistic and creative approaches to help them grow and develop together.  Whether your child behavior problems and your family conflict are new or something that you have dealt with for months or even years, there is still hope for healing.

In our initial session with you, the parents, we will address your child’s individual needs and listen to your worries and wishes for your child’s future growth and development.  Based on our first meeting, your therapist will work with you to determine the best, most effective style of therapy to use with your child.

Children often use play as a way to communicate, and we may use Non-Directive Play Therapy to help your child use this behavior to promote healing.  Using this method, your therapist will trust your child to direct the sessions through their play.  Your child’s therapist will promote a safe environment to work through the difficult emotions that he or she is experiencing.  Non-Directive Play Therapy promotes your child’s internal drive towards wellness by creating an environment based on acceptance and unconditional positive regard.

Alternately, Directive Play Therapy is a method used with an older youth who no longer uses free play to communicate.  Using creative and flexible methods, your therapist will help your child express what he or she is feeling in order to begin to heal.  Your therapist will use strength based approaches tailored to the interests that your child has, such as drawing or music.

Your therapist will continue to work with you as your child receives treatment at Alkira.  Phone calls and regular meetings with you, the parents, are established in order to continue to support your child as he or she continues to participate in therapy.  It is important to our therapists that parents are a part of the therapeutic process and that the child has a team to help support his or her healing.

But, You May Still Have Questions…

I think my child will benefit from additional help or support, but I have heard therapy is expensive.

Therapy is an investment in your child’s health and well-being.  Allowing your child time to heal, grow and learn healthy coping strategies can significantly reduce disruptive symptoms impacting you, your child and the rest of the family.  In addition, giving your child the opportunity to learn healthy ways to cope and heal now can prevent future struggles during his or her teenage years or adulthood.

At Alkira, we are committed to making therapy affordable for everyone.  If your insurance won’t cover your sessions, we offer a sliding scale according to each family’s income.  Please inquire.

Our family has very busy schedules and I am not sure there is enough time for therapy.

Therapy is not only a monetary investment, but also an investment of your time.  We understand that families have busy schedules with work, school, after school activities, etc.  To try and accommodate the unique needs of our youth and families, we offer morning, afternoon and evening appointments Monday through Friday. In addition, we now have Saturday appointments available.  Please inquire.

What if therapy makes things worse?

Painful issues for your child or family may arise during therapy.  Although these may be difficult, it is important that child behavior problems are worked through in order to prevent problems in the future.  Deciding not to get help for you child right away will likely lead to things getting worse and could lead to problems later in life for your child.  Our caring and compassionate therapists use strength based treatments while working with your youth to promote the resiliency each child has.  With support from you and your child’s therapist, your child can be very successful.

There is Hope for Your Child Behavior Problems

If you would like to schedule an appointment or discuss any questions you may have regarding therapy for your child or how we work with child behavior problems, we are available at 315 492-1390 or  We return all calls and emails within 24 business hours.